There are several types of extremely problematic men (narcissists, psychopaths, and manipulators) who work hard to get to your head, break your spirit by blackmailing you, humiliating you, and destroying your self-esteem.
They are afraid of losing you and they pretend to love you. They will do anything to manipulate your feelings.
If you notice him using some of the following phrases, you should see this as a red alert.
Unfortunately, these people can do enormous damage to your life and that is why it is so important to see the signs as early as possible.
See also: What a Manipulator Hates: 20 Things You Need to Know
1. If you leave me, I will kill myself
HUGE RED ALERT. These kinds of people use blackmail because they know it usually works for a while.
This will be useful until you realize that you don’t give a damn what he’s going to do – that there’s nothing worse than putting up with him.
2. Look what you did, you made me do…
It’s so dangerous because it uses mental tricks. He wants to show that all bad things are your fault. He screamed because you provoked him.
He hit you because you deserved it. He’s acting like a real asshole, but he’s trying to convince you that you made him like that.
Does this mean anything to you? If so, run!!!
3. Don’t annoy me!
This is a situation in which he openly shows you that you are inferior to him.
He reminds you what happens when he’s angry, and he wants you to know that you’re about to pay the price.
Don’t let fear take over you, and get rid of it as soon as possible!
4. If you love me, you will do it for me
He’s a selfish bastard. He gives you ultimatums because he knows your weak point. No matter how crazy his demands are, you must satisfy them in order to prove your love.
My dear daughter, this behavior is sick. No one should force you to do things you don’t want to do, this is defined as violence.
5. My ex did it like this…
He’s probably still attached to his ex who dumped him because she realized how crazy he was.
He constantly compares you to her and openly shows you that you are not good enough.
The truth is he’s not interested in you, you’re just there to fill the void in his life.
6. You don’t want me to be happy
This one usually comes with a crazy request that you don’t want to make. He’s visibly excited and happy about some crazy things you don’t appreciate.
He doesn’t care about your opinion, he wants what he wants, and that’s why he’s subtly blackmailing you with this phrase.
7. You are too weak to be alone
He knows you’re not strong enough to abandon him right now, because you’re probably afraid of ending up alone.
He wants to convince you that no one else will want you anyway. He works very hard to undermine your self-esteem because the weaker you are, the easier it is for him to manipulate you.
But, at the end of the day, one thing is absolutely true: being single is much better than being in a relationship with a maniac!