I used to think that toxic relationships were simply passionate relationships.
At the time, I didn’t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, arguments, and excessive expressions of love were what made a passionate relationship.
I was wrong. Not only was I wrong, but it cost me time, health, and everything else I invested in those relationships.
In some of them, I even questioned my sanity. After being blamed for things I didn’t do, criticized for my choices, and regularly cheated on, it’s safe to say I started to feel like I was going crazy.
Fortunately, I decided to put an end to all of this for good.
Once I realized how badly I was treating myself, I decided to change things.
No man is worth my sanity.
This led me to write my own list of things that I will put into practice in my life from now on:
1. I will enjoy life to the fullest
Life is too short for unnecessary drama. I want to enjoy the beautiful things in life.
A bad relationship consumes your life. You see nothing but your partner and your relationship. The rest of the world ceases to exist, and that’s just sad, because life is wonderful.
This is precisely why I remind myself to focus on all the good things in my life.
2. I will stay drama-free
Sometimes I can’t believe a random guy obscured my vision so much. All the drama I was involved in seems so stupid now.
I’ve wasted so much energy trying to fix what couldn’t be fixed, I’ve had enough.
3. I won’t try to help people who don’t want to be helped
The truth is you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to. The only thing it will do is drive you crazy.
Don’t worry about things you can’t control. This includes other people.
If someone really wants to be with you, they won’t play games. He will be direct.
4. I will not tolerate someone else’s immaturity
Are you familiar with this situation where he deliberately does things to make you lose your cool or just blatantly disrespects you?
I can’t even remember how many times I was left stranded while he fooled around and acted like nothing happened.
Which brings me to my next decision:
5. I won’t let anyone make me feel crazy anymore
If you’re still not aware of this, hear me out. It’s not okay to constantly argue with someone. It’s not passion – it’s just stupid and hurtful. This is not a healthy relationship.
It’s not okay to tolerate things you wouldn’t accept from your friends.
Oh, and friends! They heard so much of my nonsense instead of just enjoying my company and having a good time, this is why I decided:
6. I will cherish my friends and enjoy our relationship to the fullest
Men come and go, but true friends are for life. Until you are sure you have found the right person, make sure to take care of your friends who have been there for you through tough times.
7. I will not waste my energy on trivial things
Worrying and stressing about the relationship cost me so much. It took a toll on my mental health and I had to go through a long journey to heal myself.
I wasted so much energy on unnecessary drama and feelings of anger and hurt when I could have just removed myself from the whole situation.
Bad relationships caused me so much pain, but in the end, it made me appreciate the good things in life more.
What is important is to always move forward and not lose hope that better things are coming. We learn from our mistakes. And through learning, we grow.