I Want A Guy Who Really Cares About Me

Living alone, life is too difficult. We can lie to ourselves and others by saying that we are better off being single than being in a relationship.

But in truth, this is only true when one has to choose between singleness and a mediocre relationship.

If the choice were different, if it came down to choosing between a happy relationship and being single, which would you choose?

You would choose to be with someone, to be happy. Because we are not meant to be alone.

We need someone to share our dreams and hopes with, we need someone to cry with when we are hurting and sad.

We need our soul mate, our other half.

I want it all. I want someone who helps me when life knocks me down.

I want someone who will tell me I’m worth it when my self-esteem is at its lowest.

I need someone who loves me, even in my worst moments. I need someone who won’t give up on me, even on my darkest days.

I want love, but without the heartache.

Constantly giving second chances and seeing your heart break every time is so difficult.

How can you let your guard down and open up to someone when you know almost with certainty that you will end up suffering even more than before?

a woman with a leaf stands

I refuse to continue to believe that because he said so, a man actually wants to be with me.

I refuse to keep proving to myself that someone cares about me. I refuse to keep swinging between “he loves me” and “he doesn’t love me”.

I want a guy who really cares about me!

Who shows me that he loves me.

Words don’t mean anything. I couldn’t even tell you how many times I’ve sat down, only to hear crazy promises and empty words.

How many times I wanted to leave, but I stayed because of a few clichéd lines, taken from flimsy films.

It worked before, but not anymore. Like I said before, I don’t want to force myself to believe that he loves me anymore.

I no longer want to cling to a seemingly positive little thing he said, trying to believe as best I can in his sincerity.

I want a man who will act silently. I want a man who won’t make any promises to me. I want a man who will simply do things.

He will start the car to warm up the engine. He’ll cook dinner, because he’ll know I’ve had a long day.

He will surprise me at work with lunch, just because he loves me.

He will be kind because he wants to be and not because he wants to appear in the eyes of others.

He will talk about me, because he will be proud of me. He won’t lie about me or try to persuade people that I’m awesome just to make himself look good.

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a woman reads a book

He will sincerely believe that I am capable of doing anything to achieve my dreams.

He will walk proudly by my side. He will walk next to an independent woman. He will be my support, I will be his.

He will spend time with me, but he will know when to let me breathe.

He won’t act like I’m one of his possessions. He won’t force me to live his life.

He will encourage me to have my own life, he will encourage me to be independent. But still, he will spend time with me.

Not because he has to, but because he wants to. Our interests will be similar, and he will enjoy doing the things I enjoy, just as I will enjoy doing the things he enjoys.

And when he sees that I need solitude, he will give it to me. He will not doubt our relationship and will not feel threatened.

He will know that I need to think and he will let me do the same. He’ll know I won’t bother him, if I can figure things out on my own.

And he will know that whenever I need help, I will call on him.

This is what a man who truly cares about a woman does. Unlike those who automatically think they’re unloved and you’ve found someone else the second you ask for some solitude.

When he is not with me, he will not forget my existence.

When he takes time for himself, I won’t need to be afraid that he will cheat on me. I won’t have to worry about him forgetting me.

a man and a woman walk down the street

He will write to me to tell me that he misses me and that he loves me. Even when he is gone, he will be with me. Because that’s true love.

We love someone the same way, whether they are present or absent.

When we argue, he will let me calm down.

He will let me breathe, but he will not leave me. Even if he is angry with me, he will be there for me. He will not feel insulted by my actions.

He won’t see our arguments as things that can’t be resolved.

Even if he’s right and I’m wrong, he’ll come to me and try to make things right.

He won’t sulk or stay silent for days, because he will love me and care about how I feel, unlike every other man I’ve ever dated.

He will motivate me to be the best I can be.

Life with him will have a bright future. Life with him will be something I refuse to lose.

He won’t provide for my every need because he won’t need to, but he will challenge me and try to make me a better person every day.

Our future will be happy, because we will be made for each other. We will be fair to each other and we will respect each other.

The man I want will care about me, because being with someone who doesn’t care about me is no longer an option.

I will not settle for less than I deserve. Not anymore.

I Want A Guy Who Really Cares About Me