Every time you see your girlfriend lately, all you see are doubts in her eyes. So you think she’s clearly exaggerating and overreacting.
You don’t know what’s happening to her and why she doesn’t believe a word you say. She clearly has serious trust issues, and it’s having terrible repercussions on your relationship.
You wonder where the happy, cheerful girl you met has gone.
Now you can only hear his reproaches and questions with every move you make. There is nothing you can do to prove your love for her.
You really think you’re trying your best to be a good guy, a loving and supportive boyfriend, but nothing seems to be working. Even if you moved mountains for her, she would still have doubts about your love.
And naturally, it slowly starts to annoy you. You didn’t imagine your life like this.
You don’t need someone whose overthinking is ruining your relationship and who is constantly checking every little thing you do. You don’t want to feel like you’re constantly being watched and controlled.
In your opinion, it all got a little out of hand. She’s too jealous, and you start to think she’s going crazy. You feel like you can’t cope with his constant mood swings and his behavior towards you in general.
But what you don’t know is that every relationship is a two-way street.
His behavior is just a reaction to your actions, and that is the only truth. Instead of accusing her of being crazy, jealous, and overly controlling, have you ever thought about all the things you did that led your girlfriend to become this way?
Yes, she is very aware that she has trust issues. She doesn’t believe a word you say, and there’s nothing that can convince her of your honesty.
Yes, sometimes she acts like she’s paranoid, and there are times when she accuses you of things you didn’t do.
But have you ever thought about what you did to make it happen? Have you ever questioned yourself and thought about everything you did to make her behave this way?
You know very well that this girl wasn’t like that when you met her. You know she was an innocent, caring girl who believed in love and believed that there was something good in everything.
But most of all, she believed there was something good in you. Even though people kept telling her that you were problematic and that you weren’t the man for her, she trusted you.
She was confident in her love for you and she believed that the immense love she felt for you would change you.
But she never changed you. On the contrary, it was you who changed it.
You showed her that she should never have trusted you. You showed her that everyone was right about you and that she was crazy for believing in you.
You disappointed her more and more every time she caught you lying.
She lost her trust in you more and more every time she caught you hiding your phone, making mysterious calls, and every time she caught you looking at another girl.
And then she caught you cheating. You can think that she has forgiven you. And maybe she did. But she didn’t do it because she wanted to.
She did it because she loved you, despite everything you put her through. She did it because she couldn’t imagine her life without you, despite all the pain you inflicted on her.
And she did it because she held out hope that you would eventually become a better man.
But even though she forgave you, she never forgot what you did to her. She really tried to put it all behind her and move on.
But she just couldn’t do it. The feelings of betrayal and humiliation you inflicted on her were even stronger than the love she felt for you.
And above all, she still can’t forgive herself for staying by your side. She can no longer stand living in this torture.
Every time she looks at you she sees a man who hurt her in the worst way, she sees a man who destroyed her and changed her forever.
And there’s nothing she can do about it.
So, every time you get annoyed by her lack of confidence, every time you think she’s mistreating you, and every time you think she must be crazy, remember that you made her that way. Remember that this is all your fault.
And remember, she wouldn’t have trust issues if you didn’t have lying issues.
