Stop Looking For The Perfect Man, Focus On Becoming An Exceptional Woman

I believe there is an ideal person for each of us, our perfect partner. I sincerely believe in the existence of soul mates, because not so long ago I was discovering myself and it was through this that I met mine.

I know this may be hard to believe, but your soulmate is out there somewhere, and I’m sure he will find you. Your paths will cross one day and he will be everything you ever wanted.

It will even be more than that. He will be the prince you dreamed of when you were a little girl. He will be that tender-hearted “bad boy” you had a crush on when you were a teenager.

He will be a successful and protective man with serious plans and goals for the future. A man who knows what he wants and how to get it. A man whose priority is to settle down and start his own family.

He will be that man you pray to every night before you go to bed.

girl praying

One day, I’m sure he will come. The only reason he’s not here yet is because God thinks you need more time. More time for yourself.

You need to work more on yourself. You need to achieve some of your own dreams and goals. You must build yourself as Independent woman in the first place.

Your soulmate will come into your life when the time is right. There are some things you can’t control in life, and this is one of them.

So why worry about things that are beyond your control? Why worry about it when you don’t get to decide when these things happen?

I too was obsessed with finding my “soul mate” my whole life, and where did that lead me? Nowhere. I only neglected my own needs. I was jealous of every happy couple I passed on the street.

I started to think that maybe the real problem lay within me. I was constantly haunted by the feeling of not being good enoughand I didn’t know how to get rid of it.

I wondered if I would ever find someone who thought I was good enough, someone who would see me in a completely different light. Because God knows my self-esteem was terrible.

I remember when I was in college, my goals for the future were to graduate, find a job I would enjoy, and work hard to become a successful and independent woman.

I wanted to surround myself with a large circle of friends and somehow repay my parents for all the love and everything they had done for me over the years.

This futile search for a soul mate completely changed my goals for the future. The only thing that mattered to me was finding someone who would love me and stay with me for the rest of my life.

Don’t misunderstand me. Having a life partner is important and should be part of everyone’s goals for the future. But it shouldn’t become an obsession.

There are so many things you should take care of in your life before you start sharing it with someone else.

One day I saw photos of my friends on Instagram. They were enjoying their vacation in the Maldives. Then I discovered that my colleague had been promoted and had become my superior.

That day, I looked in the mirror and said, “Stop right there, little one. That’s enough. You need to get your life in order and you need to do it now!”

girl looking at herself in a mirror

I also deserved to travel and have fun. I also deserved to progress in my career. This freshman was counting on me, and I had to make her proud.

The day I decided to change my way of thinking was the day my life began to improve in every way possible. I felt calmer and more relaxed. I finally felt this feeling of inner peace.

I refocused my attention on myself. I started working on myself. I had to reestablish my relationship with myself. Taking care of myself became my priority. I found my life mission, and it wasn’t to find the ideal man.

I worked hard to improve myself in every way possible, and I did. I am so proud of myself and everything I have accomplished so far.

I just want to say something to all the women out there who are looking for that great man. Your great man may come, but he may also leave one day.

You are the only person you know you are bound to for the rest of your life. Try to make it fun, exciting and interesting by improving yourself.